On Monday, Lili had her tummy tuck operation. She's not up to doing much, and she's been hanging out at her house recuperating from her surgery. The problem - I don't like hanging out at her place anymore, as her menagerie of animals go in and out of the house at will, and I don't know what kinds of problems (e.g. Ticks and/or Fleas) come into the house with her animals.
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As usual, I didn't get moving until late in the day. But this was perfect for both Lili and I, as she asked me to pick up some milk, some ice cream, and some cookies on the way over. This gave me time to get some cash out of the ATM and to fill the car with gas - for the first time since Sunday.
Arriving at Lili's, I found that she was depressed. She liked the dress I was wearing, and unlike the picture above, I was not wearing hosiery or a sweater. Instead, I was wearing a denim jacket with sneakers on my feet. I was very comfortable and very informal. It's nice to have a dress that I can dress up or dress down as needed. Lili took out a couple of necklaces that she wanted to give me, and one of them looked perfect with this dress. (I'll get a picture of it soon.)
Lili brought up the subject of my relationship with GFJ, and noted that the two of us love each other. I wouldn't argue this. Lili then said that she'd be willing to have me come to her son's wedding as Mario if this meant that GFJ would come. I noted that GFJ will either have to come to peace with me being both Marian and Mario. For if she doesn't, I won't be able to give up this part of me that needs to be out in the open.
My visit to Lili was cut short by her getting sick. She said that she'd call for an ambulance if she felt abnormally sick, and sent me on the way for the day. At this point, I was free to do some window shopping. So, it was off on a loop to Catherine's in Poughkeepsie, to the Avenue in Newburgh, stopping off at Walmart in Fishkill, and then back to my apartment. There was nothing really interesting in any of these stores, but I picked up some foodstuffs at Walmart before going home.
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While driving around, I tried to reach YGM to talk about the upcoming wedding. But she wasn't available. Then GFJ called. We talked about her divorce (it'll be final soon), the divorce settlement, and then she asked me how I knew she had a darker side to her. I mentioned how she reacted regarding the Wasband, noting that she advocates well for herself, but takes a while to build up the steam to be nasty. And I said that I don't want to be on the wrong side of her when this happens.... She then mentioned that she never saw me in the same position, but she thought it would happen once. I said that I learned to recognize my anger bubbling up as a result of 13 years of therapy.
As I was crossing the Mid Hudson bridge, GFJ joked about me seeing her friends for dinner. I asked if all her core friends knew about Marian, and she said they did. I noted that I'm open about being Marian, would feel comfortable being with them in Marian Mode (as I was dressed today), but would never suggest doing so, as she (GFJ) is uncomfortable with me in Marian Mode.
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Hopefully, GFJ will get out of her house early tomorrow, so that we can go to Long Island before the Summer weekend traffic jams start next week. (Memorial Day Weekend) I figure that it would be nice for us to see the Theodore Roosevelt house at Sagamore Hill (Oyster Bay), and complete the tours of the three Roosevelt houses. If I can convince her to do this, I'd suggest a restaurant I know in Glen Cove (Stango's) for good Italian food, and to stop by my dad's place to see him without having to make an extra trip to Long Island next week.